I've been meaning to write about this for a while. It's hard for me to understand the hoopla over the Delhi gang rape. Incidents like this happen in India everyday and no one pays attention. Not that this girl did not deserve the attention. My heart goes out to her and every other human being who has gone through such horrific experiences.
But then, what is everyone who is fighting for this cause and mourning this event really trying to achieve? We got them a death sentence and we still had a 7,9,11 year old trio raped and killed in another part of our country. We can all write and talk about it and attend rallies but what are we trying to achieve?
I believe India'a problem is not rape. It is attitude. We have never learnt to respect an individual for who they are and we probably never will. It's not in our culture. For years we have learnt to expect certain things from women and men of society. Until something of that basic sort changes within the society, the rapes will not stop. All the men and women who stood in rallies and posted messages on Facebook and Twitter, I ask you one question. Do you treat every individual in your life with respect? Because if you don't, don't expect that drunk guy on the road to show any respect to the girls on the street.
Do you Indian men treat your wives as equals? Are your daughters allowed to do as they wish just like your sons? In fact, do you respect it if your son chooses a more feminine profession? I know for a fact that majority of India still has women in the kitchens and men working their asses off outside. And some people won't have it any other way. Then why act like a saint and blame someone else for India's problems?
There are many things wrong with our own attitude. People of India sometimes just need something to fight for and feel very important as they do so. I suggest taking a little peek inside and see where these problems arise from. Because to me this whole fighting-for-our-women sounds like a big scam while we are no different.
By the way, all you guys who said they were mourning the incident (referring to all those Facebook and Twitter posts), there are more rapes happening right now. Why have you stopped mourning and gone back to partying?
You are absolutely right! You have hit the nail on the head with this. Our attitude is the problem. Our conduct arises from it. You are also right when you observed that there is still a very rigid demarcation between men and women and their roles in our society. It makes me upset and angry and helpless. I just do not see change coming. For a while atleast. So many more women will have to sacrifice their dignities till we finally can learn to respect each other.
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